I was privileged to speak with a lady who used to be in an abusive relationship. A lot of terrible things happened to her in the relationship which she blamed herself for, for a long time.
She believed she deserved the treatment she got. If he hits her, she believed it’s because she wasn’t well behaved or that she had disappointed him. Well, he broke up with her and she felt that, too, was her fault. She blamed herself for a lot of things that were wrong with him.
We met and I began to tell her about the love of Christ. Nobody heals like Christ. This is not a cliche. It was hard at first but she accepted the love of God and began to see herself the light of who God says she is.
She realized that she endured abuse for so long not because she loved to but because her identity was lost. As the saying goes, “Anything seems right for you when you’re not sure who you are.”
She found her identity and she just can’t stop talking about how her life has changed. She’s in a godly and of course healthy relationship now and the quality of her relationship is consistent with her new identity in Christ.
Your life is defined by your beliefs and convictions about who you are and that you cannot do by yourself. Your identity must be backed up with something solid, something you can always hold on to even when the Devil tries to tell you you’re not. Saying positive things about yourself is good but knowing and saying the truth of God’s word about yourself is better.
Your identity is at the forefront of God’s heart. God actually cares how you see yourself that when He was going to give you an image, He decided to share His own image with you so you know you’re His exact same image and when people see you, they see God through you.
Oh! The scriptures is loaded with God’s descriptions of us and the names He’s called us. Such endearing names! These are not just names, they are who we are.Such beautiful reality of who we are! Then He gave us Jesus. This is the height of love. This is the greatest show of value for you and I.
I say I’m unlovable, but God says I’m loved.
I recognize I’m a sinner, but God says I’m forgiven.
I say I’m weak, God says He’s my strength.
I say I’ve been rejected, but God says I’m accepted.
I say I’m a failure, but God says I’m more than a conqueror.
I say I’m fearful and scared, but God says I’m powerful, loved and have a sound mind.
I say I’m not beautiful and there’s nothing special about me, but God says I’m fearfully and wonderfully made.
Accept your identity today. Wear it in your spirit and on your head like a crown. You’re a vessel unto honour, accepted in the beloved, bought with a great price, a royal diadem… Let the Devil see you walk in this reality and shiver.
“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.” 2 Corinthians 5:17
“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” Psalm 139:14
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.” John 3:16
“For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.” 2 Timothy 1:7